Marriage is a wonderful idea from God! Fred Littauer wrote a book entitled, After Every Wedding Comes a Marriage. Several couples that Sandra and I took through pre-marriage counseling have recently gotten married. I think about the title of that book and wonder how they are doing with their first year of marriage. It is well known that the first year provides great challenges in marriage and the challenges don’t end there.
Ephesians 4:32 is a wonderful verse that will help—if you will live by it. “And be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.” (NAS)
Make a commitment to your spouse that you will practice these three and ask the Holy Spirit to empower you to do it. It is possible to live that way. The benefits in your marriage will be great!
Proverbs 15:1 is another great verse for marriages. “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” (NAS) If one of you says something harsh and the other returns with harshness, the discussion will probably escalate with each feeling justified to continue. If, however, one responds with a gentle answer, the other will probably feel bad about what was said and the argument can easily be diffused.
For many years, I had to have the last word and be right. In recent years, with the Lord’s help, I have been able to overcome both. It is helpful to “let go of the bone.” Also, when you are in a hole, quit digging.