Many years ago I learned that when approaching a train track without lights and without an arm that comes down, I needed to be extra careful. I was taught to stop, look and listen. When I was sure the track was clear, it was safe to cross.
That is also good in a marriage. Communication is one of the major difficulties in marriage. It is so important for husbands to STOP, LOOK and LISTEN! Stop what you are doing. Give your wife your full attention by looking at her. Then listen carefully to what she is saying.
At the church in which I grew up was a small group of married couples. This is where I learned how to communicate. We went through an exercise designed to help us listen attentively. Someone in the group would start by making a statement. The next person to speak was required to repeat the gist of what was said. That person had to say, “Did I understand you to say…” The first person would reply. If the second person was correct, he or she could then say what he/she wanted to say. If the second person was not correct, the first person would repeat the statement. The second person would then say, “Did I understand you to say…” This process continued until everyone had a chance to talk. This exercise taught me how to be attentive while listening instead of thinking of what I wanted to say.
My wife needs me to STOP, LOOK and LISTEN! This tells her that what she has to say is important to me.
This will do wonders for your communication and, in turn, for your marriage.
James 1:19b says, “But let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger”. (NASB)
Did you ever wonder why you have two eyes and two ears, but only one mouth? Think about that.
One of my favorite verses is Proverbs 13:3 in the KJV, “He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life.” Sometimes I reword that to say, “He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his wife!!”